A new leader’s journey is likely to be a long, gradual one, hence my previous reference to the ‘Leadership Odyssey’. There’s no satnav or text book to definitively show the way, it’s highly individual and each business scenario, including the players involved, will be different.
Conversations with a coach can be a catalyst towards a gradual change of mind set and behaviour. As a thinking partner the coach prompts ideas through discussion helping the client to identify their best assets and those of their team. Empowering others will free team members to demonstrate their untapped abilities and feel motivated as the leader steps up to influence and lead.
“Only do what only you can do” advises Paul Sloane, Scottish business guru and author. This was the starting point for several sessions with a female client who began by feeling overwhelmed, and compelled to drive hard on every front when what she wanted to do was focus.
Identifying and playing to her unique strengths and holding back to allow others to play to theirs meant team members could step in and take some of the pressure. With space to create her own rules and boundaries she then confidently highlighted the priorities and presented them to her senior management as options 1 or 2, with realistic timeframes rather than trying to achieve everything all at once.
This change in behaviour combined letting go, motivating others while being confident in her strengths and learning how to lead herself.
“I want to change the world” was conversely the approach of another client who was in such a hurry to get things done in his new role that he felt frustrated at every turn. His primary challenge was learning patience and tolerance as a leader.
Through our discussions, he began to realise that others slower pace was an asset, it showed their thoroughness. Succeeding as a team meant allowing individuals to add value in their own way.
He confided that each coaching session prompted him to think deeply about his situation. He now sees that his new leadership role is not only satisfying, he feels accepted and respected by his team and the unexpected benefit is a better work/life balance.
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